Porn is not real life. Just a reminder for those who watch porn (ie. everyone) that the people you see on screen are performers, acting out a fantasy, for money.
Therefore, what you see on screen is not a depiction of real-life relationships and sex. And it can become painful, both physical and psychological, if the lines that separate pornography from reality become blurred.
The effects of porn consumption on adolescent boys and men have been shown to be harmful and damaging. Although there is nothing shameful about using adult websites or watching porn, using it as a tool for sexual education is problematic.
It is no secret that most porn is made for the male gaze. Poor treatment of women, sexual objectification, and depictions of female sexuality as submissive have plagued the industry since its inception.
So it should come as no surprise that when some men watch porn, they get a few misguided ideas about what women want in the bedroom. Women of Reddit are here to make the world right again, though. They are telling men about all the things they should not try just because they have seen it online or in a video.
*No Reddit entries have been edited. Any spelling or grammar mistakes and use of slang are direct quotes.
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Anal with no prep, attacking the clit like it has to be bullied into making me orgasm.
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Shower sex when most showers are TINY irl with nothing to hold onto. Plus every guy I've had shower sex with can't stand the water hot, so I'm cramped AND having a cold shower.
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Too many guys forget that there's actually pain involved with some sexual acts - which is easy to do, when you're just watching it (and professionals, at that). It's actually not ok to just try ram your dick up the ass in one go. You have to have adequate lubrication, and work your way up to full penetration so that it doesn't hurt as much. And hey, then it might actually be pleasurable. Some dudes act like they're trying to start a fire with how vigorously they finger you. It's not pleasurable. Like, at all.
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Too many guys also judge their dick size off porn stars', which is ridiculous. That guy is a pornstar because he has a massive fucking dick - and certainly not one that many of us are used to.
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Literally just ramming their fingers in you, and also trying to rub your clit at the speed of light. It hurts. Take your damn time. I shouldn’t have to tense up during foreplay every time because I’m expecting something to hurt.
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Do not try to bang me in a pool. Germs. And improper lubrication. The movies lied.
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Sucking on the clit to the point your pulling it and rubbing it against your teeth. I see it so often in cunnilingus videos and in real life it's super uncomfortable and painful. This happens so often during oral and I have no clue why guys think they're being sexy. Imagine if a girl scraped her teeth against the head of your dick. It'd be fucking awful.
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More the absence of something: THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THE MISSIONARY POSITION. It's not "boring" and "vanilla" unless you go into it with a negative mindset. The intimacy of it can be really great- most guys love it when I ride them horizontally with our torsos pressed together, yet can't seem to fathom why I'd find it sexy to have their body all over mine. By all means, let's keep doing the fun and tricky positions. But give me some missionary too dammit.
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Right before sex announcing that I am to call you daddy.
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Forgetting that I need to breathe during blowjobs. If you hold my face down it throws off my mojo and makes me have to stop for life giving oxygen. Just lemme do my thaaaaang.
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Trying to do it while standing if there is a considerable size difference.. it won't line up and it's awkward.
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Expecting girls to cum from penetration and believing if they don’t they’re (guys and girls) doing it wrong. Sex feels AMAZING but I may not cum from it. That’s totally ok.
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Going from the backdoor to the front door immediately and without any washing up or using new/sterile products. Most pornstars do enemas right before anal scenes and this can help lower the amount of fecal bacteria that could get transferred, but it’s still not safe; and usually regular women don’t get enemas that often. Putting anything in her anus and then into her vagina is a recipe for a nasty infection. Don’t do it.
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Shaking his head like a wet dog when eating me out.